As women, our desire for intimacy depends on so many factors other than just our physical arousal. Between crammed schedules and endless to-do lists, juggling life’s many demands can leave us with little energy to connect. If you feel like the daily grind has pushed intimacy to the backburner, it’s time to focus on you for a little while. Discover what you can do to bring your body and mind back into balance so you can better nourish your intimate relationships: whether that’s with a partner or yourself.
Step One: Manage Your Stress
Your body’s stress response is meant to help you through difficult situations: stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline throw your body into problem-solving mode. However, when your brain stays in this state continuously, your body’s well-intentioned stress response puts a serious strain on your physical and mental health. You may find yourself tossing and turning at night, feeling foggy during the day, and operating on a shorter fuse--making emotional and physical intimacy seem like an impossibility.
Luckily, making some simple lifestyle tweaks can help manage your body’s response to daily stress: carving out some time to hit the gym or committing to an evening meditation practice will not only help kick-start your brain’s stress-fighting neurotransmitters, but also quiet the mind to promote a good night’s sleep. The ginseng and saffron found in Libby also boost energy and increase resiliency so that your body can respond better to stress.
Step Two: Unpack Your Emotions
Is there something important you need to say but don’t know how? The longer we wait to express our frustrations and needs, the harder it becomes. Whether you’ve been hanging onto an old grudge or have a secret desire in the bedroom you’ve never felt brave enough to express, emotional intimacy depends on honesty and open communication, even if that’s just with yourself.
Confronting your emotions can take many forms: if you’re feeling a little shy, start out with a journal. It’s an opportunity for you to be fully honest with yourself and get some perspective on your thoughts by seeing them laid out on the page. If you’re looking for a little more guidance, a therapist can provide a safe space for you to explore.
Step Three: Set Aside Time Together
Intimacy stems from feeling connected to your partner, but it’s not always easy to find the time and space for that connection. Feeling disconnected from your partner can lead to arguments and miscommunication. The result? Feeling like you’ve lost the spark in the bedroom.
Reconnecting with your partner can be as simple as committing to some scheduled quality time-- no phones allowed. If you have a bit more time on your hands, plan a getaway or try a new hobby together. Doing new things with your partner releases the feel-good neurotransmitters dopamine and serotonin in the brain and helps restore your intimate connection.
Step Four: Get In Touch With Touch
When it comes to physical intimacy, sometimes it feels like the conversation is all about s-e-x. If this isn’t sparking joy for you, it may be time to explore the many other ways you can use physical touch to connect— whether that’s by yourself or with your partner.
Soaking in a candlelit bath, making time for a slow massage, or holding hands on a walk are all simple ways you can dip back into the physical realm. The potassium nitrate in Libby can also help enhance your response to physical touch: this essential mineral boosts microcirculation and lubrication so that you actually want and enjoy sex again.